How can you make a long-term relationship immune relationship-fatique.
While most people struggle to find a life partner that has the potential to last for life, let aside keep the relationship healthy over a longer period of time, some couples seem to have all the luck in the world in having and keeping an intimate relationship alive and kicking over the long run. Is there some special kind of secret that they have or is it all just a matter of pure luck and is the most we can do just hope for the best whenever we engage ourselves in an intimate relationship.
Moreover, it’s no secret that the success of any relationship hinges on the level of commitment and effort put in by the two people involved in it. However, there are some people who have managed to keep their relationship alive over the long run and have kept it from breaking apart or, at least, were able to repair it when it broke apart. Some people might find it hard to believe, but there are some people who have been able to keep their relationships alive in spite of difficulties and hardships. Because these kinds of events are almost unavoidable in any normal human existence.
What’s the Secret?
Studies suggest that there are some clear distinctions between relationships that face a premature ending and the ones that are able to stand the test of time. Here are some secrets I’ve discovered for keeping love alive for the long haul. Whereas some of these secrets may seem a little weird, they are worth trying out for yourself and I bet you’ll find that some of them work for you as well.
1. Avoid setting expectations too high
It’s hard to know whether or not a relationship will last in the long run if we don’t set our expectations too high. It’s true that we can’t expect anything more than a relationship that lasts for life. However, we can set reasonable expectations. Sometimes we become so focused on the bad parts of the relationship that we forget about the good ones. We forget that even when things are tough, there are still good moments. So, take time to reflect on all of the positive experiences you’ve had and try to remember when you last felt happy.
2. Constructive Communication
Communication is one of the most important aspects of any relationship and without it, you can never expect to have a successful relationship. The truth of the matter is that most people – inadvertently engage in a destructive tenant of communication that is not helping the relationship at all. To be franker; destructive communication can kill any kind of relationship in no time. Most people confuse being frank by giving the other a piece of their mind, where the other is always ‘wrong’ in one way or the other. By covertly blaming the other, the partner is automatically pushed into a defense mode, and that only stirs up the bad vibes even more.
Therefore, it’s very important to have open and frank communication in any relationship, but it is even more important to address being frank about your own behavior. Make yourself the center of responsibility and not the one you say you love. Because scapegoating the other is not a very strong sign of that so-called love. It’s very easy to assume that you know your partner well enough to be able to have a frank conversation with them without having to worry about hurting their feelings.
Don’t forget to cherish the good parts
Sometimes we become so focused on the bad parts of the relationship that we forget about the good ones. We forget that even when things are tough, there are still good moments. So, take time to reflect on all of the positive experiences you’ve had and try to remember when you last felt happy.
Relationships are filled with ups and downs. That’s life! But the good news is that it’s not too late. The key to long-lasting relationships is making sure you’re open to growth and change, as well as being honest, respectful, and direct. When you’re open to growth and change, you can grow and change as well. Honesty, respect, and direct communication will help you both stay connected and avoid problems that could break you apart. You might even have a little fun along the way!
Forgive but do not forget
Many people think that forgiving someone means they have to forget everything bad that has happened between them. They believe that forgiving means forgetting and that nothing more is owed to your partner. This is completely false. The truth is that forgiving means you are willing to allow yourself to be happy and open up the future to the possibility of ‘giving like before’ Forgiving means you are willing to let go of the bad memories and focus on the good ones. In fact, forgiving means having faith that your partner is capable of doing the same.
Invest in your relationship
The best way to show gratitude is by investing in the relationship. A great relationship isn’t something that we buy. It’s not something we build with money. It’s not something we purchase. It’s built with love and friendship. It’s built with respect, support, and sacrifice. It’s built with understanding, patience, and a sense of humor. A great relationship is one where the other person knows that you care.
Conclusion
Relationships are filled with ups and downs. That’s life! But the good news is that it’s not too late. The key to long-lasting relationships is making sure you’re open to growth and change, as well as being honest, respectful, and direct. When you’re open to growth and change, you can grow and change as well. Honesty, respect, and direct communication will help you both stay connected and avoid problems that could break you apart. You might even have a little fun along the way!